Most everyone has heard the phrase, “you can’t pour from an empty cup.” Anyone hate that saying? I do. While I appreciate the sentiment behind the message, it has always felt slightly off to me. I have heard it more than likely at least 1000 times since becoming a mother years ago. Yes, I know people mean well when they give that advice… Yes, I know it is coming from a place of love… Despite the good intentions behind the message, I just never loved it. AND THAT IS OKAY.
A few days ago, I was speaking with a great group of dear friends. We were discussing our individual self care tips that helped to keep our “cup” full. A powerful woman in the group spoke up and said, “One should not pour from their cup, but rather from their saucer.” I had NEVER heard that before. I was in awe. Complete awe. The visual of only giving from the overflow of your cup was powerful. Was this concept why I never liked the original phrase? I think so. If you are giving from overflow, you are not depleting what is necessary to be the best version of yourself. I am ALL about giving. I have built a pretty impressive world around the gift of giving, BUT… give not at the expense of your family or your health (both physical and mental.) It’s simple, if your cup is overflowing, give. If your saucer is dry, pause and assess why.
I would love for you to do me the absolute honor of leaving a comment answering these two questions…
What causes YOUR cup to become empty? What causes YOUR cup to overflow?
PS- It seemed like a good idea at the time to take a picture of my cup overflowing. I think it took me all of 2 seconds to start spilling it all over the floor. Of course Billy was appreciative of the afternoon caffeine boost. Just another day in the life of Amanda. Who can relate?